Beginners Bondage Cuffs
This question comes up a lot when I’m talking to people, I try to tell every one the same thing, and that is to ease into it; you don’t have to necessarily ever have to talk about it, you can almost suggest it little by little, and she will get the fantasy on her own.
Start with light hair pulling, but be smooth about it, don’t go yanking like shes some kind of doll! Start with running your fingers threw her hair, pass both your hands threw a couple of times, as your hands reach the end of her hair, pull slightly, see if you can get her to tilt her head back, look to see if she is doing it by her self, don’t force her! if she leans back this is going to be E-Z! (Shes already into it, she wants you to take control.)
If you tried, and she wont really move, keep running your fingers threw her hair, and when you see her closing her eyes a little, pull her hair gently, but pull from about 1 inch away from the scalp. you will have more control here, now this can go two ways…ether she likes it and things get hot, or she’s wondering what the hell are you doing?
If she submits to you congratulations! and you should be able to handle it from here… but if she’s looking at you like what are you doing???
try to read her… if she is freaked out out by it, jump ship!
If she likes it, but is still asking questions, you have just a little more work. don’t really reply to her; just turn it into a game, yank her hair, be cute as you can be, and move on to other things (get Ice cream or something)
try it from the top again the next day; she will think you just like playing with her hair, and will get really comfortable with your hands being there, once you see her submitting to you, kiss her, nibble her ear, bite her neck, bite her chin, turn her head left to right and take control of her head. whisper in her ear if she likes it. a nod or a yes means don’t stop!
Then you can do things like, making her put her hands up, and keeping them up, grope her, feel her up any where, force her on her tippy toes, spank her, spreading her legs, be creative.
If she lets you get this far she will do anything to get her orgasm, and let that be the reward, or pick one that you know she would like. her reward can be anything you want it to be, just make sure she feels like it’s actually rewarding!
Remember it does not have to be sexual to be rewarding… you know that opera or ballet she really want you to see with her? or that’s salsa, yoga class you don’t want to take? the hundred bux she needs for her car insurance, (that kinda makes you like Geico) the new sex toy she had been begging you for…. Anything!!!!
Vegan Pink and Blue Bondage Collar
Now if you want her to be restrained, remember that some girls are scared of bondage, it’s scary to trust some one on that level for the first time, most have a dirty mental picture of what bondage is, that’s pain, not pleasure. the color of bondage gear can be scary too!
Black is the color for most fetish gear. It’s a mental thing that makes a newbie scared. so lets not make it so serious; make it fun!
Introduce some color! Check out thees collars, cuffs, leash, and paddle. I bought a pair for a girl friend and the first things that came out of her mouth was “Oh My God Its sooooooooo Cute!
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